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My Approach

My approach is based in neuro-psychology.

Identifying Triggers and Breaking Patterns

Sometimes we feel stuck in a place we do not want to be.  It may be an all too familiar place with a repeating pattern of emotional pain.  Some patterns are readily seen, others are harder to identify, and some are new having been born from more recent emotional experiences and traumas.  Regardless, we may feel hopeless or in pain and we want to be freed and given the opportunity to reach our fullest potentials and to truly and authentically be ourselves, without concern.

The triggers igniting this emotional pain may especially reveal themselves within our closest relationships and in the ways we think and feel about ourselves.  I help you find these triggers.

Getting Unstuck and Breaking Free

How do we break free?   Without full understanding of ourselves,  or why we feel the way we do, we often attempt to avoid our pain;  Many try running away, distractions or do things to dull their pain.  Relocating and leaving relationships may only work temporarily.  Drugs, distraction, dissociation, perfectionism, denial, etc.,  without identifying and changing the underlying patterns, the triggers persist, to affect us over and over again until we find better ways to effectively deal with them.

Lasting freedom, as you can guess, doesn’t come from doing the same old things or thinking in the same ways.  Lasting change requires a new way of being and doing.  It is found by developing a new way of seeing ourselves and others.   When we do this, life becomes surprisingly easier, because the changes necessary to make our lives better become obvious as our perspectives shift.   

The only constant is change. It’s part of the Buddhist tenant to accept that there is change and nothing is permanent. There’s impermanence. Change is a messy part of life. If we believe things are permanent we get attached, and then if things change we suffer. There is a lot of wisdom in Buddhism that neuroscience is now backing. That’s why mindfulness is taking off.

See and REWIRE

My two main goals are upfront.  They both aim to assist clients in living their best life.

SEE: My first goal is to help clients clearly identify their triggers and reactivity, and how these patterns are affecting them. Once seen, it is easier to choose differently.   If unseen, they remain invisible and entrenched leaving us reacting without awareness or conscious intent.  As our awareness shifts our choices and lives are given the opportunity to change.

REWIRE: This leads to my second and ultimate goal for my clients; I aim to help my clients find break free from these old maladaptive ways. And as they do, they will not even have to ’work’ at choosing differently.  It becomes reflexive and natural to choose, from an authentic place, what is best for their own happiness.  

How is this freedom to make better choices and to live better lives obtained?  By using special techniques which help rewire the brain.  The latest research in neuroscience, gives us wonderfully effective tools to help retrain the brain. I am trained in various therapeutic methods including CIMBS, EMDR, and Mindfulness techniques which help people to think and feel differently, so that ultimately, their triggers may be permanently deactivated.   We are unstuck from emotional pain and patterns of reactivity and are freed to live our best life, as we, personally define it.  

 
Among other things, neuroplasticity means that emotions such as happiness and compassion can be cultivated in much the same way that a person can learn through repetition to play golf and basketball or master a musical instrument, and that such practice changes the activity and physical aspects of specific brain areas.
— Andrew Weil, Spontaneous Healing